#TuesdayTreasure: New Adventures, New Memories

Hello Friends,

Yeah, I'm a little behind but hey, I showed up. :-)

As you all know, my husband passed away in 2009 and my life has been a roller coaster of adventures, some good and some not so great.

Well late last year I reconnected with a man from my past. We had dated briefly back in 1987 then went our separate ways, each married and both have lost our spouses (sounds like a romance novel right? LOL!) Anyway...

We reconnected and he loves to travel, try new things, and explore new places. So we've been sharing in some new adventures. Today I'd like to share a few photos and memories with you from a couple of the latest....

A Bob Seger concert in Lafayette, Louisiana

and a trip to Biloxi, MS to see the group Heart at the Hard Rock Casino...
     

                                         

While in Biloxi we also toured the Visitor center and climbed the Lighthouse....

If you recall back in 2013 I wrote a Thursday Thought post on being single and finding a mate in which I listed some of the qualities I desired in a man. Well let me tell you getting specific and doing this exercise, along with having faith and patience of course, really works. Although I didn't really get a chance to know this man when we dated way back when, he pretty much fits the bill of what I decided I wanted in a man/relationship.

Well I hope you enjoyed this week's Tuesday Treasure. Stay tuned for Thursday Thoughts and of course, Saturday Spotlight!

Until later... take care and God Bless!
PamT

#ThursdayThoughts: Alone in Love....

Good Morning!

Well today is one of those random rambling days and I'm sharing some thoughts on being in love....

George Strait's song Desperately has been playing on the jukebox in the back of my mind for several days now so I thought explore the reasons why.

The chorus says.... "But desperately, I long to feel your touch, but you left me all alone in love."

How many of us feel that way after a breakup or death? I know I did....

Still do.

But lately another sharp edge to those words have been revealed and as the thought takes root, so does the fear. 

The fear of falling in love all by myself.

If you've followed me for long you know I don't see single-hood as a smorgasbord of opportunity to meet members of the opposite sex, but as a jungle or minefield. 

Therefore you'll understand my sentiments.

So how do I/you/we overcome this fear?

Prayer of course is the first and foremost way. Isaiah 34:16 says, "Seek out the book of the Lord and read: None of these will be missing, not one will lack her mate. For it is His mouth that has given the order and His Spirit will guide them together."

I meditate on this Scripture and trust that in God's perfect timing I'll meet my next soul mate.

Get clear of what you desire in a mate...write that down and put in in your bible next to this Scripture. Go deeper than what's obvious in your description, list the emotional attributes you seek (loving, kind, generous, emotionally available, etc)

Write a letter to your soul mate and his or her guardian angels.

I saw this on Face Book one day and it made perfect sense.

Visualization is a wonderful tool so get pictures of couples in love, hearts, couples dancing or sharing a romantic dinner, hiking or running together. In other words doing what you'd love to do with your soul mate and spend a few minutes every day or a couple of days each week imagining you with him/her doing these things.

Be patient and trust. I know, I know, these are the toughest to do, but the most important thing you can do is have faith and wait for God to bring your soul mate to you. Especially if you find yourself drawn to someone. Get in touch with your deepest self and always be aware of your feelings and open to those around you. You may be attracted to someone on every level but if that person is not responding as you'd like, understand he or she may not be as into you as you are to them. Or may be going through some emotional healing/growth and is not where your soul mate needs to be.

In other words, have faith in the process and trust in the fact that you and your soul mate are destined to meet!

Most importantly, spend quiet/quality time with the Lover of your soul. Lean on Him for comfort, strength and guidance while you wait on His timing.

Something to think about!
"Inspirational with an Edge! ™

Tuesday Treasure: Enchanted Love by Marianne Williamson

Hello Friends,

Tuesday Treasure is a bit late getting posted today. But here it is....

You all know I'm an avid reader of spiritual material and Marianne Williamson is one of my favorite authors so when I received a B&N gift card for Christmas, I went shopping and picked up her book, Enchanted Love.

If you are married or single, looking or not, this book is a wealth of information! I highly recommend it and think EVERY couple should read it together!

Three of Marianne Williamson's previous bestsellers -- A Return to Love, A Woman's Worth, and Illuminata -- explored the issue of relationships. Now, in this deeply personal collection of essays, prayers, and self-reflection, she turns to romantic love. 

In Illuminata, Williamson wrote that "we experience God to the extent to which we love, forgive, and focus on the good in others and ourselves." Now, in Enchanted Love, she writes that "enchanted partnership begins with the conscious understanding, on the part of two people, that the purpose of their relationship is not so much material as spiritual, and the internal skills demanded by it are prodigious." High romance, she says, "is not about past or future. It is not about practicality. It is not about society or worldly routines. It is an audacious ride to the center of what is, at the heart of every person. It is a bold and masterful inquiry into what two people really are and how we might become, while still on earth, the angels who reside within us."

This book is available @ Amazon and Barnes&Noble!

Get it, read it alone and with your mate...you'll not regret doing so!

Until later take care, God bless & remember... Until you are clear about what you want in a mate, you'll keep getting bits and pieces in different packages.

Something to think about....

"Inspirational with an Edge!" ™

Thursday Thoughts: Physical Attraction or Spiritual Connection?

Last weekend was “Hunter’s Weekend” here in Bandera. The opening of deer season where hunters come from all over to well… hunt LOL! But it’s also a huge party time where male and female alike stalk more than animals of the four-legged species. All day and half the night bands play at every bar in town, and a huge “Bloody Mary” party takes place at the river-park on Saturday. Dancing and drinking are a premium and if you like either, you’re bound to have a good time.

Well, as good a time possible when alcohol is involved.

Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy a wine cooler or shot of something stronger as well as the next gal. But drinking myself into oblivion and losing control are not an option, especially when I’m out on the town.

Anyway, that’s not what this post is about.

While talking with a gentleman friend after I’d introduced him to one of my dearest girl friends, I made the remark, “Those spiritual connections are the best.”

The impact of that statement was not lost on either of us and made me realize something important I’d like to share with you.

As you all know, I’m not thrilled with this journey from wife to widow to individual. For someone whose main ambition in life from the time she could articulate was to be a wife, single-hood is not fun. 

In fact, it is downright uncomfortable. 

Instead of viewing this time in my life as a maze of opportunity and discovery, this journey is more like traipsing through a jungle of confusion and doubt or a landmine of fear and uncertainty.

Both scare the living daylights out of me.

Especially when it comes to the opposite sex.

I see what’s ‘expected.’ It’s not who I am at the core of my being and that makes me wonder how I’m ever going to cope. Well-meaning friends are no help. One says, “Let the men come to you!” Others say, “This is the way it is and you’ve got to relax and just put yourself out there.  Don’t be so uptight.” OR “It’s just a kiss.” And yet another says, “Honor YOUR feelings.”

And here I am left clueless as to what the right answer is -- although I am leaning more toward “honor YOUR feelings.” (and no it’s not “just” a kiss!)

If you know me at all, you know I LOVE to go out dancing. Other than prayer and meditation, nothing soothes my soul more than a waltz, two-step, or jitterbug across a saw-dust covered floor in the arms of a gentleman. When I’m on the dance floor I am 100% in the moment. I’m not thinking about the past or worrying about the future.

Since one of the qualities on my list of desires for the perfect soul mate, is someone who loves to dance, I’m careful to keep my heart open to meeting him on a dance floor somewhere.

But one thing I’ve come to recognize out there on that floor is the difference between physical attraction and a spiritual (or soul) connection.

Although physical attraction may occur with someone I enjoy dancing with, very few elicit a connection I feel on a soul level. Those that do, may not realize how lucky they (we) are. And that’s fine. Everyone is on his or her own path and may not want anything more than physical attraction.

But a soul connection is one I want to experience, explore, and build upon.

After all, the physical attraction may be wonderful but when that’s gone, what will you have if there’s nothing deeper to your relationship?

Something to think about….

“Inspirational with an Edge!” ™

Thursday Thoughts: Random Ramblings on Being Single & Finding a Mate

Nearly 4 years ago I was thrust into life as a single woman, the future I'd planned aborted by the death of my husband. Let me tell you the journey from wife to widow to individual has not been and is not easy! Especially for someone like me, someone who from the moment she could articulate, wanted to be a wife and mother.

Of course I'm grateful for the years I spent as a wife, mother & step-mother and I'm eternally grateful for my children and grandchildren but I miss my husband and I do not like being single....There I said it!!

I don't know how to be single and am too tired to figure out the games men and women play with each other. I prefer being open and honest and true to myself.

What you see is what you get...You like it? Good!
You don't? Hit the road it's your loss!

That might sound harsh but to be even more blunt, life is TOO SHORT for pettiness, bullshit and drama.

Why is it that these men my age and older are so into young, petite, compact bodies, big boobs and long hair instead of being concerned with the HEART of a woman. A real woman who knows how to love and appreciate a man?

UGH!

When I questioned God about this the advice He gave me was.... "Do not look for a mate in the flesh. Look for a mate in the spirit and that mate will come to you in the flesh."

Last evening I spoke with a lovely young woman who laughingly said she had a list of qualities she desired in a husband. Earlier in the day I visited with a friend whose brothers wife had made such a list (before they met) and was blessed with her perfect mate.

So, taking the advice of my Father I described my soul mate.... A spiritual man, loving, kind, healthy, energetic, attractive, financially secure, emotionally available, loves to laugh, love, play, grow, help others, travel and DANCE!

Not sure how long it will be until this man enters my life but until he does, I am not up to playing games with the rest of you guys.

Love you ALL but not happening.

I pray you single ladies and gents take courage and recognize what you truly desire in a life partner then work on healing your soul and life so that you will be ready when he/she comes to you!

Something to think about... "Inspirational with an Edge!" (tm)