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Thursday, November 17, 2016

#ThursdayThoughts Guest post by Tina Gayle

Good Morning Friends!

Tina Gayle is no stranger to us. She is the inventor of the various blog exchanges I participate in (Egg-Cerpt Exchange, Fall Romantic Travel, etc.).

Today, Tina would like to share some thoughts with us...

How do You Recover from Pain of Grief?

I’m sure there are an infinite number of stories of how a person recovers from the loss of someone they loved.

I thought, I would share with you my story. As you may know, I’m an author. For some writers to lose someone they care about puts them in a blue funk and makes writing extremely hard. A writer’s block is what some people call it.

Luckily, I was at the beginning of my career as an author and didn’t know about this problem. So I did what I always do when I’m struggling to adjust. I let my imagination go wild. For me, I need the comfort of my family. At the time, I was living in California while my sisters and most of my family were living in Texas.

I had picked up a book by Sylvia Brown about the Other Side. This book set sparked my imagination. I began to wonder what it would be like if I could communicate with my ancestors on a day basis. Could they in some way direct my life and help me grow as a person?

This question led me to ask more questions and soon I had a story idea that set me on fire.

While writing Summer’s Growth, I felt as if I had Jonathan the main spirit in the story on my shoulder. He and the other spirits helped me understand the difference between a ghost and a spirit. How spirits appear in faded colors while ghost were black and white.

Jonathan showed me something that my characters didn’t seem to get. Just because things aren’t going great doesn’t mean they aren’t going according to plan. We all need to grow and learn. Different things happen for a reason. Our job is to find the positive in what happen and grow.

So after working on this book for months, I felt better. I had my family walk me through the story adventure. They talked me through the pain of losing a loved one and helped me emerge on the other side. Granted, I still miss my mother, but I also know she’s still with me.

I hope you enjoy my story, and you’ll check out my book “Summer’s Growth.”

All the best,


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What a sweet story Tina, thanks for sharing! I know what you mean about missing your mother. 

Tina Gayle grew up a dreamer and loves escaping into a good romantic book. She is currently working on two different series; the Executive Wives’ Club and the Family Tree series.
Married twenty-five years, she and her husband love to travel and play golf.  She can’t wait for Mike to retire so they can do more of both.
Read the first chapter of any of her books by visiting her website.

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Hope you enjoyed today's post and that you'll return each week for Tuesday Treasures, Thursday Thoughts and Saturday Spotlight.

Until next time, take care and God Bless.


Darcy Flynn said...

Losing your mother is quite painful. I miss mine every day! So much growth has happened in my life as a result of losing her. Best to you on Summer's Growth!

Susan Coryell said...

I often wish my characters would "talk" to me--though I do dream about them where they converse sometimes. Sorry about the loss of your mother. I try to remember the good times when sorrow of a past loved one clouds my mood. Nice post!

Nicole Fitton said...

Thanks Tina for a really insightful post. Good luck with Summers Growth :)

Alicia Dean said...

Wonderful, moving post. I'm sorry for your loss. I'm fortunate to still have my mother, but I did lose my father in '94, and it's extremely painful. Your book sounds like a great read!

Diane Burton said...

What a wonderful way you found to channel your grief. So sorry for the loss of your mother. I wasn't that close to my dad, but when Mom passed it seemed so much harder. I would have loved to have found a way to channel my grief. We deal with what we're given and go on. Best wishes on your new book.

Monika said...

I think this is an informative post and it is very useful and knowledgeable. therefore, I would like to thank you for the efforts you have made in writing this article.

Tina Gayle said...

Thanks everyone for your comments. I'm sorry I didn't respond right away. It is painful to lose someone. It is not always easy to recover. It takes time and we all need a different amount of it, depending on our situation. I enjoyed writing Summer's Growth and it did help.