You might be wondering at the change of photo on my header here, on Face Book and my website. No real reason....just in the mood for something different.
Also, if you haven't heard yet, I am ever so happy to inform you that my novella, Keri's Christmas Wish is finished and has been submitted to a publisher!
I'll keep you posted on the details.
Meanwhile, please welcome Colleen Coble back to our blog with something she thinks about....
Forgiveness is a real hot button for me. I’ve seen so many lives changed when a person chooses to forgive the unforgiveable. But there’s one area I feel is harder than any other—forgiving yourself.
We all mess up and fall short of the goal we set for ourselves. Sometimes that failure can hurt other people even more than it hurts us, and we wrestle with letting go of the shame we take on in those moments. Forgiving ourselves is crucial if we want to move past our failures and reach our full potential. How do you do that? This is what works for me:
1. Identify the fact that you have shame about something.
You can’t deal with something if you keep it buried.
2. Remind yourself that everyone fails.
As a Christian, I look at examples in the Bible of people who failed but were still forgiven and used of God. David is a prime example.
3. Take responsibility for your actions.
Too much of the time we make excuses for ourselves. You can never get past the way you feel if you don’t face the facts. You disappointed or hurt something. That’s a fact.
4. If you can make amends, do so.
Apologize or do anything else that comes to mind to show genuine remorse.
5. Talk it out with a friend.
There’s something about sharing your burden that makes it lighten. Another perspective helps us see things more clearly.
6. Actually forgive yourself.
When that shame rises up, speak aloud to yourself and say, “That’s over and God has forgiven me. I forgive myself as well.” After a while you actually start to believe it.
In Mermaid Moon Mallory was still dealing with shame from something she’d done ten years earlier. Ten years is a long time to carry that weight around, but some people carry it all their lives. You don’t have to!
Best-selling author Colleen Coble’s novels have won or finaled in awards ranging from the Best Books of Indiana, the ACFW Carol Award, the Romance Writers of America RITA, the Holt Medallion, the Daphne du Maurier, National Readers’ Choice and the Booksellers Best.
She has more than three million books in print and writes romantic mysteries because she loves to see justice prevail. Coble is CEO of American Christian Fiction Writers. She lives with her husband, Dave, in Indiana.
To keep up with Colleen Coble, visit www.colleencoble.com, become a fan on Facebook (colleencoblebooks) or follow her on Twitter (@colleencoble).
Mermaid Moon can be purchased at Amazon.
You are so right, Colleen! Forgiveness is definitely Something to think about!
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Until later....take care and God Bless.
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